Q: As I reflect on the discussions surrounding "old age" that have been circulating lately, I find myself contemplating the challenges that come with aging. While I may not process information as quickly or move with the same agility as a younger person, I wonder: How can these issues be turned into positive experiences?
A: The fourth century, BC Phoenician merchant Zeno once said after his ship hit a rock and lost all his cargo, “I made a prosperous voyage when I suffered shipwreck.”
This ancient wisdom may resonate with you. When we are faced with difficult challenges and struggles, it can be easy to feel like giving up or succumbing to despair. Life is undeniably full of adversity that often leaves us feeling defeated and overwhelmed.
Aging, a natural process often perceived negatively in society, offers many overlooked benefits. The wisdom and experience that come with age, accumulated through life's trials and tribulations, can guide us to make better decisions and navigate future obstacles more effectively. This wealth of knowledge can also be shared with younger generations, contributing to a more informed and cohesive society.
It is crucial to remember that overcoming these obstacles can help us build resilience and strength. Each challenge conquered helps us develop coping mechanisms and problem-solving skills that can be applied to future hurdles, fostering a sense of self-confidence and self-efficacy. Facing problems and struggles can also provide opportunities for personal growth and self-discovery. Confronting fears and limitations allows us to learn more about ourselves and our true capabilities, leading to increased emotional flexibility and a deeper sense of purpose in life.
To create a happier life amidst challenges and struggles, seeking support and guidance is essential. Professional therapy or counseling can help people process emotions and develop coping strategies. Self-help books like "The Resilience Factor" by Karen Reivich and Andrew Shatte; or podcasts like "The Happiness Lab" by Dr. Laurie Santos; and Arthur Brooks’ YouTube series “Be Happier” offer valuable insights and practical tips for building resilience and finding happiness.
Here are some steps for building strength and resiliency:
1. Maintain a healthy lifestyle.
2. Stay active and engaged in activities that bring joy.
3. Keep company with good people.
4. Seek out professional support as needed.
5. Focus on the positive aspects of aging relishing the wisdom and experience that comes with it.
While navigating life's challenges and aging struggles may be daunting, they also present opportunities for personal growth and better mental health. By facing these roadblocks head-on, developing coping strategies, and seeking support when necessary, we can emerge stronger and more resilient. Embracing the intricacies of aging can lead to a happier and more fulfilling life.
Additional resources
-"The Art of Growing Older: Writers on Living and Aging" edited by Wayne C. Booth.
-"Aging Well: Surprising Guideposts to a Happier Life from the Landmark Harvard Study of Adult Development" by George E. Vaillant.
-"The Gifts of Aging: And Other Secrets for Living a Beautiful Life" by Anne Scott.
Karen Casanovas, PCC, CPCC, CLIPP is a health and wellness professional coach practicing in Anchorage. If you have questions write to her at info@karencasanovas.com.
