The holiday season is a time for joy, connection and creating memories. However, for families with loved ones experiencing Alzheimer’s disease or related dementias, the holidays can also bring unique challenges. Balancing traditions with the changing needs of those we care for is essential, and small adjustments can make all the difference. Here are some ways to help make the holiday season more enjoyable and less stressful for both caregivers and their loved ones.
Plan celebrations with simplicity in mind. Simplifying holiday plans can help reduce stress for everyone. Consider shorter gatherings or smaller gatherings with familiar faces. Too much activity or noise can be overwhelming for those with Alzheimer’s or dementia, so keep gatherings relaxed, with fewer people and low background noise.
Stick to a routine. People with dementia often feel more comfortable when their routines are consistent. Try to hold holiday activities at times when your loved one feels their best—often earlier in the day. Avoid significant disruptions to regular meal and sleep schedules, as this can help minimize confusion and reduce agitation.
Prepare guests and family members. It’s helpful to set realistic expectations for friends and family members about what to expect when they visit. Some guests may not know how to interact with your loved one due to memory or communication changes. Let them know it’s okay to be themselves and that simple, positive interactions—like smiling, holding hands or sharing a story—can be meaningful.
Involve your loved one in familiar holiday activities. Adapting holiday traditions can allow your loved one to feel included. Simple activities like decorating cookies, listening to holiday music, or helping to wrap gifts can provide joy without overstimulation. Be mindful of their energy level and offer gentle guidance if needed.
Create a calm, familiar environment. Holiday decorations can bring warmth and cheer, but too many changes to the home can be confusing. Instead, consider familiar decorations and keep pathways clear to avoid falls or disorientation. Avoid blinking lights or excessive decorations, which can sometimes cause anxiety or confusion.
Embrace the power of music and memories. Music is a powerful tool that can spark memories and create moments of connection. Play holiday songs that your loved one enjoys, or consider sharing photo albums or talking about past family traditions. These conversations and moments can be a source of comfort and joy for both of you.
Adapt gift-giving for practicality and comfort. Thoughtful gifts can provide comfort and enrichment for those with dementia. Consider gifts like a cozy blanket, a favorite music playlist, or a soft stuffed animal. Practical items like easy-to-put-on clothing or a favorite snack are also wonderful options that are easy to enjoy.
Take care of yourself, too. Caring for a loved one with dementia can be demanding, especially during the holidays. Be sure to ask for help if you need it and take breaks to rest. Remember that self-care is essential to being the best caregiver you can be, so give yourself permission to step away for some time to recharge.
Use patience and flexibility as your guide. The holiday season can be unpredictable, especially with dementia. Be prepared to adjust plans if your loved one seems tired, anxious, or uncomfortable. Remember that it’s okay to step back from certain traditions or to celebrate in a simpler way if it means that everyone can enjoy the season peacefully.
The holidays are about togetherness, and even small, quiet moments can bring joy. By simplifying plans, honoring your loved one’s comfort, and showing patience, you can help create a meaningful holiday season that centers on love and understanding. Embrace these moments and know that adapting your traditions is a gift of care and kindness to your loved one—and to yourself.
For additional resources including educational classes, consultations, and support please contact Alzheimer’s Resource of Alaska at 907-561-3313 or online at ALZalaska.org. For 40 years Alzheimer’s Resource of Alaska has been providing support to Alaskans and their loved ones with Alzheimer’s or dementia.
Lisa Sauder is the CEO for Alzheimer’s Resource of Alaska.
